Monday, March 19, 2018

Chickens in junior high... plus a pretty important request

Our chicks and ducklings have been hatched for about two weeks now. They are both much bigger, the ducklings in particular. The funny thing about the ducklings is that while they are bigger, they are still very fluffy, not having grown any adult feathers yet. It is a little silly to see these 6-7 inch tall birds with these little, itty-bitty, teeny-tiny wings. We still cannot tell them apart either, well, except for the duckling that is so much smaller than the others. Her we can tell. Here's my surprising duck fact for those of you, like me, who have had very limited personal interaction with the animals. They have little claws on the end of their webby feet. And these little claws are very, very sharp... far sharper than the chicks very visible claws. They are still as messy as ever, and more than a little noisy. Next weekend we hope to get the coop built, and will be moving these noisy, messy, adorable not-so-little things out of the house into their real home as soon as is safe for them. Thankfully, they can move out sooner than the chicks.

Those chicks... they are growing, but not as quickly as the ducks. What they have that the ducks don't are adult feathers. They now have fully feathered wings which means that they are quite good at fluttering about around the brooder box, as well as up to the top of the brooder box when it is open. They would like nothing more than to spend some time exploring the wider world. Of course, if we were to let them do this, I'm afraid they would become a Scooby snack for our resident Scooby Doo. Instead, whenever we feed and water or clean the coop, it takes several people. One person to do the actual work, and at least two, if not three other people stationed around the edges to both keep the predators out and the chicks who want to explore in. It's kind of crazy circus.

This morning, as I was watching them as I drank my cup of coffee, I noticed a new behavior that we hadn't seen before. The squabbling for the flock pecking order seems to be in full swing. This morning it was taking the form of chicks running at each other and bumping their chests together. Between the perpetual squabbling and the gawky, not quite fluff, but not quite feathered adolescent awkwardness, I was suddenly struck by the fact I have 21 chickens surviving junior high in my kitchen. It doesn't look any prettier in poultry form. At least if you are a chicken, the junior high phase is a matter of weeks as opposed to years.

The chicks will have to wait longer to be moved outside. None of us is quite sure, though, how exactly we are going to have room for 21 large chickens inside. We may have to rig up a heating system for them outside to move them out sooner. Poor J. has seemed to spend all his free time over the past two weeks perpetually reconfiguring the brooder boxes; enlarging them as the birds grow bigger and constructing wire lids to keep them safe, but allow us access. It's an adventure.

This next items is neither poultry related, nor is it terribly funny. Over the past several years, the regulation of international adoption has increased significantly, with no real corresponding benefits. All it does is add cost, time, and paperwork to an already complicated process. Recently there has been a new set of regulations which have rolled out. Please, read the article that I link to, read it, and consider signing the attached petition. It would also be wonderful if you could share the information in your realm of social influence. Thank you! (Oh, and as an aside, I wrote the article explaining the situation, even though my byline doesn't appear on the article.)

You Can Help Save International Adoptions and Solve the US International Adoption Crisis

Sunday, March 18, 2018

"I don't think God would ask me to do something so hard"

First, before I go on I must take a page out of my adult children's book and say, everything is fine here. (My children will immediately say all is OK if they are calling at an odd hour or use the phrase, "Can we talk sometime?" I appreciate this, as my ability to panic is hair trigger, and this little phrase allows me to breath again.) This post is not about our immediate circumstances. Close friends and family can now take a deep calming breath.

I have heard quite a few variations over the years of the sentence I used for the title. Other variations include, "We prayed really hard for our child, and that's why he doesn't have any problems." Or there is, "We were called to adopt, so of course God has blessed our journey." Each of these beliefs has some real theological problems to it.

Let's start with the last two, because as well as being wrong, they can also be extremely hurtful. If you flip them around, you can understand why. If someone prays really hard for their soon-to-be adopted child, and that child has no presenting behavior or emotional issues, then it can also be true that if you do have a child with behavior or emotional difficulties, it must be your fault because you didn't pray hard enough. The flip side of the third belief is also tough to swallow. That would be, if God is not blessing your journey (I'll get into the whole idea of what blessing really looks like in a minute, so set that aside for the moment), then He didn't really call you to adopt, you must have heard wrong.

Think for a moment how either of those statements might feel to a parent who is struggling with a struggling child. Instead of being supported by a fellow believer, they have instead just had a punch to the gut. There is nothing like being told your difficulties are all your fault, for either not paying attention or for not being diligent enough in your prayers. I can tell you for a fact, a parent struggling with a struggling child is already feeling guilt-ridden enough, and chances are they are already having a spiritual crisis as a result. There is nothing good or helpful about giving them a nice shove along that path.

If you have not struggled with a struggling child, I am genuinely happy for you. It might just be what God ordained for you. I'm not going to try to second guess that for a moment; that's between you and God. The trouble comes when that one moment of having things work out how one hoped is made into a blanket, "This is how God works," statement.

But what I want to focus on is why the thinking in any one of these statements is just plain theologically wrong, and I want to do that by sharing a little of my spiritual journey. If you have been reading here for any length of time, you know that some of my children suffer from the hurts they endured before they joined our family. Some of these hurts are very, very deep, and the pain is real. A child in emotional pain cannot always understand or control what he or she is feeling, and the result is behavior that can be both baffling and extremely difficult. Parenting a child who has been hurt can be extremely difficult as well.

I've done this kind of parenting for nearly 12 years now... very nearly half my parenting career. There were times when I was terrified of what the next hour, much less the next day would hold. There were more than a few moments where I was convinced that I could not do this for one more second. The number of tears I have cried over my own guilt and mistakes, over my children's hurts, over my frustration, over fear for my family, or sadness that my life was not looking as I imagined it would could probably fill a large swimming pool. There have been moments that have been the most difficult thing I have ever done in my life.

(There have also been moments of great joy. I don't want to give an inaccurate depiction of our life, but the point of this post is to focus on the hard.)

With each of our children, there have been moments where I have been utterly convinced by circumstances and events that God had made us their parents. That we were the ones chosen to be the parents who had the privilege to raise and love these children when their first parents could not. I was never in doubt about that for any one of them. That is a very good thing, because in the dark moments, I would cling to that knowledge. I didn't doubt they should be here, but I did doubt the goodness of a God who would ask this of me.

I just wanted to love a child who needed a family. That idea seemed so very simple and easy. How hard is it to love a child, after all? It's good to want to love a child, to give a child without a family, a permanent family. How could something that started out as such a genuine desire to do something good become something so gut wrenchingly hard? It was a very short hop from this, to the genuine question of, Did God love me?

There were some hard years in the last twelve. It's hard to keep moving forward when things don't seem to be getting better. It's hard to keep moving forward when you feel as though you have been deserted by God, or worse yet, to feel punished by Him. Did I not do the right thing? Did I not try hard enough? Why was God making me go through this? Was it ever going to end?

I am in a better place now... a much better place. As I struggled and searched and questioned and cried, God was there. I didn't always feel His presence, but looking back, I can say He was there, but I was too focused on the immediate feelings of fear to even be aware of His presence. I can also say, that much of what was a struggle for me was because I was coming at things from the wrong angle.

I wanted to do great things for God. I wanted to live a life that would glorify Him. I wanted to make a difference in the life of a child. I certainly had my own agenda. While none of these things was bad, it was the idea that I was going to do these things... I would show people what it meant to be Godly... I would heal and love and nurture a child... I... I... I.

You know what? God doesn't need me. There is nothing I can do for God that He can't already do for Himself, and significantly better, I might add. But do you know what is even better? He might not need me, but He wants me because He loves me. And the only thing He desires in return is for me to love Him back, without any agenda.

So how does all this fit in with adoption? God used all the hard in the past years to show me that I couldn't do it. When I tried to do it all on my own, it was an abysmal failure. God used all the hard to show me exactly how much I needed Him. God allowed me to experience the hard precisely because He loved me.

Are things all easy now? Good golly, no. Some days are still hard. Some days I still wonder how I'm going to get through it. Some days I do doubt that God knows what He's doing. I'm human. It's what we do. But I am also much, much better at realizing that I'm not in charge. The more I try to push my own agenda, the more uptight and fearful I become. When I remember that God is actually in charge, I can ratchet back a bit. Because it is truly miraculous how He has worked healing and brought about change.

If I leave you with one idea, it's that God loves you. God loves you even if He asks you to walk through what seems to be too hard. It could very well be that looking back, you will see that He asked you to walk through that hard precisely because He loves you. Jesus walked through the ultimate hard for us. God knows what it's like.

Saturday, March 17, 2018


For those of you not parenting children affected by trauma, you might not know that term in the title. It refers to the fact that our bodies store traumatic experiences, and that on the anniversaries of those traumatic experiences can react as if they were happening again. It's weird, but true. I've watched multiple children struggle, and I couldn't figure out the reason until something later reminded me that a traumatic event in their past happened on that date. Adoption anniversaries are huge for this kind of stuff around here.

I knew intellectually what was going on, but will admit there was a small part of me that struggled to feel compassion, because, good grief, that was a while ago. Can't we just move on? (Remember, I tell you all the time that I'm not perfect, that this interior lack of sympathy is just a piece of that.) Well, this past week I had a personal experience that kind of changes all that.

I have been in a rotten mood all week. For the life of me, I couldn't figure out what was up. Things seemed to be all going quite well, yet I was experiencing some pretty extreme anxiety, my patience and temper, always a little difficult to keep under control, were hanging by a thread, I felt as though my skin was literally crawling much of the time, and I couldn't shake these very physical feelings. What on earth could be going on? Of course, any mom reading this knows all too well, that once you start down the path of easily irritated and short-tempered, then it doesn't take too much time before you also get to add a heaping helping of guilt to the whole package, because you know you are being a rotten mother. So there was that on top of everything else.

Completely unrelated, but I must have had some sort of glimmer in the back of my head, I got to wondering what we were doing this time last year. I couldn't quite remember when we put the Big Ugly House under contract, and when we started looking for new houses. I knew it had to be around this time, but just couldn't remember. Enter the good ol' blog. It is so easy to go back and look at this date last year to see what we were doing. Well, it was illuminating.

Just about this time last year, life for us was incredibly up in the air. J. had started his new job, so had started the monster commute that kept him away from home far longer than any of us were used to. I was trying to do my best to pare down and pre-pack belongings in order to get the house on the market. School had already been called for the year, because you can't put a house on the market and teach school all at the same time. Plus, I was struggling with some extremely mixed feelings about everything that lay before us. In short, I was kind of a wreck and the future was very, very cloudy.

It was at this point that I realized I was experiencing my own little traumaversary. Over the past week, I had to remind myself multiple times that this new house, this new place, was really where we were living. We didn't have to pack up and move. I had to remind myself of this because worries about where we were going to live were popping into my head. It also explains why I was feeling as though I was a walking exposed nerve, perpetually irritated at everything and everyone. It's how I felt through the whole period where there were so many unknowns. My body was repeating everything I had experienced the year before.

I have to say, I have significantly more empathy for my children. This particular episode was a pretty benign traumaversary. It was short-lived, things quickly resolved well, no one died. If this was my experience... and it was very real and very unpleasant... over this type of trauma, how must my children feel in the midst of traumaversaries for significantly more traumatic events? It wasn't just all in my head, it was physical feelings all over my body.

There is nothing like experiencing something for yourself to elicit compassion, huh?

Friday, March 16, 2018

Friday bullets, March 15, 18

I'll jump right in, thus avoiding working on the article I need to get written.

  • It seems as though spring might actually be on its way.

Yes, it turns out we have a giant pussy willow growing next to our little stream. I cannot tell you how happy this makes me.
  • Because it is very nearly spring, I decided to start The Secret Garden as our tea time book. I don't know how many times I've read this out loud, and was surprised when the youngest of my crew didn't know it. But no matter how many times I've read it out loud, I am always caught off guard by the need to do some editing on the fly as I read in the first few chapters, due to some no longer even vaguely appropriate racial terms. Sigh.
  • I can now cross "dried baby chick with a blow dryer" off my list of things I've never done. When we got up yesterday morning, we discovered one of the chicks had a shaving totally glued onto her skin by poop. It took quite a soaking in warm water to loosen it. Thus the need to dry the chick with the blow dryer.
  • I am waist deep in laundry. Last Friday, J. discovered that the drain pipe from the utility sink in the basement had come disconnected. It meant that I couldn't do laundry. I didn't really miss it. J. was able to fix the pipe, but that means that now I have more laundry than ever. Some people got to stay extra long in their pajamas yesterday morning due to waiting for clean clothes.
  • One of the goals with this move was to have a bigger garden; one that would have enough room to grow everything we wanted to grow. This spring, we plan on putting it in, and start growing things. This is why I have been more than a little consumed with this catalogue.

I want all the seeds. Yes, I know that would be ridiculous, but still...
  • It is a little tricky to take care of the chicks and ducklings, and certainly takes more than one person. The chicks are perpetually trying to get out and Nefertiti is perpetually trying to get in. Thankfully Kenzie doesn't care in the least, but boy, Olive loves those little balls of fluff. Usually she is pretty good, but a couple of days ago, to everyone's surprise, she leaned over and picked a chick up in her mouth. A. screamed, Olive dropped the chick, a little girl scooped the slightly damp chick up and deposited it back in the box. The chick is fine, A. may have lost a year or two of her life. 
  • We went to the library last Wednesday. Now that everyone is reading so well, they have become aware of all of the books in the library that they can now read. It was very exciting, and we came home with a lot of books.
  • There is nothing I love more than to see a child curled up in a chair, reading a book.
  • This past week's school has been a bit over taken by all the ducklings and chicks. It takes time to keep them clean and fed, and they are so interesting to watch and play with, that there has been little interest in doing much else. I'm just as bad as they are. 
  • Finally, I'll share some chick and duckling pictures. I promise that there will eventually be other things written about here.

Happy Friday!

Wednesday, March 14, 2018

Poultry poems

(With apologies to Walt Whitman and Henry Wadsworth Longfellow)

O ducklings! my ducklings! your water do you fling.
The shavings in your pen are damp, there's poop
          on everything.
Your food is wet, I had just set, your box
          all neat and clean.
Alas, before my very eyes, in seconds its
                    But O ducks! ducks! ducks!
                    O the light brown fluff you wear
                    And the little bills and webby feet
                                 seem to make it fair!

Beneath the warm and heated plate
Twenty chickens peep.
They're small and cute and stay up late,
Not often do they sleep.
Their bedding is strewn across the floor
And so we need to sweep.

We have four types of baby hen
With five of every kind.
Five black, five striped, five orange, and then
Some yellow you will find.
We did not think to count the chickens
The paper we just signed.

We spend a lot of time each day
Watching all the fun.
The chicks run here, then run away,
they lie down in the sun.
But when we really paid attention
We counted twenty-one.

Tuesday, March 13, 2018

Adoption: A List of Articles Dealing with Attachment, Trauma, Education, and Connection

I'm working very hard at not catching whatever bug laid TM and K. out last week. Plus, I got to drive into the city through two near blizzards, making for very slow travel times. The crazy thing was it was sunny for most of the day at my house. Needless to say, I don't have a lot of energy left for original content. What I want to do instead, is to create a master list of many of my past adoption posts. I tend to write the same things over and over, mainly because I see the same issues arise over and over with each set of new adoptive parents. This will save me time in writing things out.

So, if you are a potential adoptive parent and want to learn about this life you are considering, or if you are a new adoptive parent and feel as though the floor has completely fallen out beneath you, take a look at some of these past posts.

First, all of my posts from my Adoption 101 ongoing series:

Indiscriminate Affection
Free Time
Prepare to be Humbled
The Process
Files Can Lie
Life After Coming Home
Chronological and Development/Emotional Ages Don't Always Match
Hills to Die On

The rest, since there are quite a few, I'm going to group by general category.

Connected Parenting vs. traditional parenting and its effects on trauma:
Why I'm Not Always Giving Warm and Fuzzy Adoption Advice
Truth and Consequences
Parenting a Little Differently
You Can't Take it Personally
When It's Hard Not to Take it Personally
Picking up the Pieces
Start as You Mean to go on
Towards a More Humane Discipline

Transitioning of children adopted at older ages:
The Building of Trust
Learning there is Comfort
It's a Planet... a big floating ball in the sky that people live on. No, really, it is.
And Now We Are 12

Navigating the first days and weeks:
Appropriate Expectations
Dear New Adoptive Mom
Jet Lag and Claustrophobia
Unasked for Adoption Advice.. or braving the flames of the internet
Paved with Good Intentions

The influence of past trauma on present behavior:

Annotated Reading List on Trauma
Brain Damage and Stress
Appropriate Emotions
The Long Process of Healing

Adoption, trauma, and learning:
Fear and Learning
Adoption and Education
Movement and Cognition
Homeschooling the Adopted Child
Hands On Learning
Teaching the Disregulated Child
Once Upon a Child

Attaching to your child... or not:
Attachment Tips
Positive Interactions
Not So Rare
I'm Sure I'm Not the Only One

Finally, if you are not a regular reader of this blog, here is a little of our adoption story:
Adoption - A [somewhat] Brief Story of our Journey

Sunday, March 11, 2018

And we have a reader

Well, another reader, actually. L. spent the weekend reading her first Boxcar Children book, finishing it before dinner on Sunday. I love seeing new readers sitting with their nose in a chapter book. She has announced that she will read the second one tomorrow, but then started to fret about what she would read after that. (There must be some genetic component to that specific worry.) I happily announced that we had dozens of Boxcar Children books. She shouldn't run out for weeks and weeks. All the children in the room then started disagreeing with me. "No, we don't have those books."
"I think we used to."
"A. said you gave them all away."
"I haven't seen those books."

And then I begin to have vague recollections of the massive purging that was happening this time last year. You remember... when I was trying to downsize our belongings by half? Well, since this time last year all three girls were far, far away from reading independently, I guess I decided that we didn't need quite so many early series chapter books. At least one series had to go, and it looks as though Boxcar Children was it. How was I to know that this would be the exact series that L. would decide to fixate on? I have promised everyone a library trip soon.

Eight children down, four to go for reading fluency. G. and Y. are very, very close. I'm sure they will not be far behind.

Saturday, March 10, 2018

Adoption 101: Hills to Die On

I think one of the most difficult aspects to being a new adoptive parent is that you have no perspective. I actually think this is what makes raising your first or second toddler difficult as well. When you have limited experience with some aspect of parenting, it's difficult to see beyond the current issue right in front of you, whether it is the toddler wanting to do every single thing themselves... at an excruciatingly slow pace, or a newly home adoptive child whose table manners are non-existent. It is all too easy to begin to believe that this phase is your new reality forever, and that you have some sort of control over it.

If you watch an older parent who has children well past the toddler stage parent a younger child, their ability to tolerate slow or fretful toddlers can be significantly greater. They have learned exactly how fast it all goes by, and even when the toddler is being annoying can step back inside their heads and remember this is not forever. Experienced adoptive parents are often able to do the same things. They have watched a child go from shocked, shut-down, and clueless about their new family and culture, to children who feel comfortable and knowledgeable about their situation. Having watched the transformation once, they know that their child will change and grow and learn. It may have felt like forever in the middle of the process, but looking back, it seems to have not taken any time at all.

But what about those hills to die on? Those would be the occasions when the adoptive parents decide that this behavior cannot be tolerated for any amount of time and must be curbed or changed. I know when I was a brand new adoptive parent, the number of hills I was willing do die on was quite high. And even if I didn't actually die on those hills, a little piece of my relationship with my child did, and left a bloody and wounded battlefield behind. Looking back, I know for a fact that most of those hills were not worth it in the least. I wish I could go back and tell my younger self to ease up a bit, that things really be okay if I don't fight that battle right then. I can't go back and tell my younger self those things, but I can certainly tell other new adoptive parents and perhaps save them some of the heartache that I caused with my good intentions.

So what are appropriate hills to die on? Matters pertaining to the immediate health and safety of the child and their family. For a child just home, to my mind, this is it. For a child battling extreme effects of trauma, this is also my list. Nothing else at first is worth it.

What isn't worth it? What a child wears, what a child eats, how a child eats, what a child calls me, what a child calls others, teeth brushing, hair brushing, bathing, schoolwork, what language they use... I could probably go on and on. I can hear some of you starting to hyperventilate just reading that list, and the "But, but, but... " mutterings beginning. I can't do that! How will they learn? But it drives me nuts! Their teeth, they'll rot in their heads. What will people think?!

Take a deep breath.

How about another one?

Now listen, I'm not saying that this is how life will work forever. Not in the least. What I want people to really think about is what is truly needed and necessary at the beginning of a new relationship. It also might be that these things are totally manageable. That's great! But many of these items can quickly become a battle between parents and child when everything is new. What I'm saying is that these things and others like them are not worth it. Winning these battles is not worth the relational cost. Waging and winning these battles may even do irreparable harm. Having a season where things such as this slide may be necessary to put your relationship with your child on more stable and secure footing. I have let go of every single one of these items with one or more children at one time or another. You will not ruin your child.

I know it's hard, but focus on the positives that you do have in the beginning. Is your child in clothes... any clothes? Great. Did your child eat something, even it was noodles for the fifth meal in a row? Great. Is your child initiating communication, even if it is by calling you a name you don't care for? Great. The alternative is that your child is so shut down or delayed or avoidant that they can't. Look for the victories you do have. Look for the places you built even a slim connection together and rejoice over that. This learning to love another is a process. It doesn't happen overnight. It doesn't happen with fights and battles. It doesn't happen when you accept the mindset of parent vs. child.

I've said it before, and I'll say it again, because I learned the hard way. Be the person you would want to fall in love with. Smile. Look for ways to give positive touch. Find ways to celebrate even the smallest victory. Make your home a place your child would want to run to instead of from. When you have that, then the vast majority of hills that seem insurmountable are layed low and cease to exist.

It all takes time.

Friday, March 09, 2018

Friday bullets, March 9, 2018

And it's Friday again. Funny how that happens.

  • The chicks and ducklings are all still alive. The first few days are always the most critical, so we're happy to see everyone alive and well each morning.
  • Last Friday, J. and I had a little vacation. We went downtown to see a show that M. had worked on, and then used our credit card points to stay overnight at a hotel. The highlight of our little vacation was closing our old checking account at our old bank, since we were in the area.
  • We have left Japan, and will be heading to China on Monday. We have learned the hard way that we have to be careful in how we speak about this. R. now has it in her head that we are actually going to get on an airplane and fly to China. No amount of words to the contrary can convince her otherwise. Someone is going to have a disappointing week next week.
  • It has not been a good week in terms of meals over here... at least from my perspective. I'm always trying new recipes, because I can't stand having the same things over and over. (I probably go a month in between cooking the same recipe twice.) Well, two of the new recipes I tried were king of meh. One I really didn't care for, but some other people liked it. The other was just a little odd, and I won't be making it again. A. was digging around in the refrigerator looking for lunch, and asked what was yummy in the refrigerator. I replied I hadn't made anything yummy for days. She laughed, and then sprang for frozen pizza for the masses for lunch yesterday.
  • I mentioned in a previous post that B. has a new job. Take a look at one of the things he gets to do in this job.
  • J. is planning on using B.'s skills to help put up the zipline that M. gave everyone for Christmas now that it is warmer. Once again, I will feel as though any friends coming over to play should have to sign a liability waiver first. 
  • Can I talk about the chicks and ducks some more? Can I say again how cute they are? Can I mention that having a kitchen full of chicks and ducklings is a great distraction to getting anything at all done?
  • Since I'm sure you all agreed that I can talk about them more, let me tell you a little about ducklings. I realize that some of my readers have first hand experience with them, but I also know the vast majority of my readers are in much more urban environments, and don't have ducklings living in their backyards, much less kitchens. First they are cute. Have I mentioned that? Look at the little webby feet!
Ignore the poop. It is impossible to get a photo without poop, because they are little poop machines.

But on top of being cute, they are the messiest little animals I have ever met. They adore water. They walk in their water. They splash in their water. They throw their water around. And within 10 minutes of cleaning their brooder box, they will have it swamped with water all over again. They are also perpetual motion machines. When they are not asleep, they waddle around between their water and their food. They drink and throw some water around, go get a nibble of food, go back to the water, back and forth, back and forth, over and over. All the while they are doing this, their little bodies are positively vibrating. When you watch them, it's as though they are not quite in focus because they are vibrating so much.

The chicks are also cute, but while messy, they are positively Felix Unger in comparison with the ducklings. The ducklings move as a little herd and do not really care to be held. The chicks are happy to sit in open hands and be lightly petted. The chicks also do things much more individually than the ducklings do. A. really wants to name one of the ducks, Daisy, but to me they are really more like Goodly, Lovely, Angel, Neatly, and Perfect from the Tacky the Penguin books. They all move together, they all look exactly alike, and it's very difficult to tell any of them apart. If only we had a black and white duck, too, we could name it Tacky.
  • I know, I know. I said no names. You didn't really think that was going to last, did you?
  • Olive is a little obsessed with the chicks and ducks. She spends lots and lots of time with her nose to the wire over the boxes. Kenzie looked at them all once, gave a sniff, walked away, and has given them no attention what so ever. We can have the brooder boxes open with him in the room, and he doesn't care at all. The cats... well, they are cats with birds in the kitchen. Nefertiti spends her days crouched at one of the corners between the boards staring, staring, staring. If sheer will power could draw the little birds into her mouth, they would all be gone by now. Midnight finds them interesting when he can be bothered. If they were to turn into bread and butter, I think they would hold much more interest for him.
  • Speaking of Midnight... have you ever read the picture book, Bad Kitty? It's hardly great literature, but is one of those books that people want read a lot, and I'm always quite happy to return to the library. Midnight has become our bad, bad, kitty, hunting bread and butter relentlessly. The other day, K. had a sandwich on the counter wrapped in paper and foil. J. walked into discover K. chasing Midnight around the house trying to get the sandwich that the cat was carrying around. The sandwich the cat had extracted from the paper and foil. Bad, bad, kitty.
  • I want warm weather.
  • Today I have promised P. that I will make her high school transcript. This is a job that I don't look forward to. I don't know why. It's not that difficult, and P. kept great records, I just don't like it. It's kind of like taxes. Which are also on the to do list.
And since I have promised this transcript will be done today, I should move along with the day's to do list. Happy Friday!

Wednesday, March 07, 2018

Chicks and ducklings

Here's the answer to Monday's mystery photo.

20 chicks in their cardboard box on the drive home.

I think this is how the vast majority of children will spend their day.

Olive is enjoying this new entertainment. She likes to press her nose against the wire. Kenzie couldn't care less, it seems. He sniffed once and moved on. The cats have yet to discover them.

They are soooooo cuuuuuuute! The ducklings are particularly amusing, and who knew how cute little webbed feet are? Can I say cute one more time? Squeeeeee!

Tuesday, March 06, 2018

A. turned 20

We celebrated A.'s birthday last night. It was nice because everyone was there. We had pasta with onion, bacon, and goat cheese, and she chose strawberries and cream for her birthday dessert.

Pretty much, when everyone is together, it is loud, vaguely inappropriate (at least concerning dinner conversation topics), and hilarious. I love these people.

Happy 20th Birthday, A.!

Monday, March 05, 2018

Saturday, March 03, 2018

Dinner in Japan

We are finishing up our visit to Japan, and had our dinner this evening. Eating a dinner from each country has become a much anticipated event this year. Even my older children who are doing their own studies have started asking when the next dinner will be and what we are having.

In one of the books we read, Sadako and the 1000 Paper Cranes, the family at one point, sits down to a dinner of tempura. Since I really like tempura, I decided that is what we would have.

Vegetables on the left and chicken on the right. I decided to skip the shrimp because TM has developed an allergy to it, and letting it pass by would have been too hard.

I should have put it in rice bowls, but our rice bowls (from both Vietnam and Japan) are not dishwasher friendly, and I couldn't get up the energy to think about washing them.

We also had sushi. I had found it on sale in the freezer section of Aldi so decided to try it. It was actually pretty good for what it was. The people who like sushi really liked it, and the people who discovered they don't like sushi happily gave the rest of theirs to the people who did.

For dessert, I had wanted to get mochi, but since this was a kind of last minute plan, I couldn't find any when I was looking for them. Instead we ended up with the ubiquitous pan-Asian cookie treat... filled pandas. What kind of cracks me up is that by far, the green tea filled pandas are always the favorite with everyone.

As I had mentioned, we read Sadako and the 1000 Paper Cranes, so our craft for Japan was learning to fold origami cranes.

This also seemed to be our country for incredibly sad books, because along with Sadako, we read Hachiko Waits for our teatime story. The story of the akita that sat waiting at the train station for his master, who had died unexpectedly at work, to return. He waited in the same spot, at the same time, for 10 years. I was kind of a blubbery mess by the end of each of them, much to my children's amusement. We're now reading The Secret Garden because I was needing a happier book to read aloud.

We'll leave Japan early next week, and then much to some girls' delight, will be heading to China.

Friday, March 02, 2018

My Pinterest-worthy moment

Notice that the title says 'moment', singular.

Since we are currently visiting Japan, I thought it would be fun to do some Bento box-style food art for one of our lunches. I've always been just a little obsessed with this, so I finally had an excuse to buy a couple more food-art-things. (I'm not even sure what to call them.) So for lunch today I made this.

It only took an hour, and wasn't actually enough food to feed everyone. But it looked good, and the children were enchanted, which was my goal. Here are some close ups.

The rice pandas are my favorite. I had leftover rice, and the face, hands, feet, and ears are cut out of seaweed sheets. They were... fussy.

I already had the hard-boiled egg molds, so I made use of those as well. This is a bunny, if you can't tell.

Then there were the Nutella (well, the Aldi version of it at least) panda sandwiches. These were almost as fussy as the seaweed.

There are also little orange flowers cut out of carrot disks, spinach stems, lettuce, and half moons of honey melon. It helped to stop at H-Mart on the way home from TM's appointment. It's where I got the melons...

and the seaweed.

My guess is that this box will last less than a week. Some of my people really, really, really like seaweed.

Everyone loved it. I was told many times that we should have this lunch a lot. I'm going to choose to interpret 'a lot' as meaning once or twice or year. I have too many children to go in full time for competitive lunch making.

In full disclosure, this is the modified version to what I had in my head. I really thought what would be fun would be to get everyone their own cute bento box, and wake up early in the morning to secretly fill each of them. Then when lunch time came, I could whisk them out, and surprise them all. This did not happen. The boxes, while not being terribly expensive, were more than I was willing to spend. I am not a morning person. No matter how much I think my children would enjoy the surprise, it was not motivating enough to get me out of bed in time to make as many individual lunches as I would have needed. In the end, everyone watched and helped a bit make the lunches. I think they enjoyed this as much as a surprise in the end. Having watched me make them, I think I will also see individual children using some of our new tools to make their own lunch.

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