This is actually the mild and coherent version

We've been working on making it possible for Y. to learn to drive. She will need to go through various state agencies to make this happen because there is just no way we can pay our of pocket. This has been one of my summer occupations. We are making progress, I think, but it is an extremely slow process. 

To anyone who thinks I'm naturally patient, I'm not, but I can fake it when I have to. This morning was one such example. After a very long conversation on the topic, the final question I was asked was whether or not Y. has her permit or her license yet. 

I'll just pause while you ponder that. I've been pondering it all afternoon. And then taking multiple deep breaths. 

So while I can make a good pass at being patient when necessary, it does mean that my margin for being patient in other parts of life is extremely co-opted. I realize any filter I may have had is virtually non-existent at this point in my life. 

And here's my public service announcement for the day. Parents of children with disabilities are not super heroes, they're not saints, they're not amazing. They are absolutely just like you who do not have disabled children. The difference isn't so much that our children have disabilities, it's that we live in a world that is not ready to actually accommodate them. Sure, there are programs in place to help, but every single one of those programs requires, multitudinous phone calls, emails, endless forms, and ridiculous amounts of gate keeping just in case the family in question isn't deserving enough. I don't need help parenting, just cash and accessibility. 

And if you doubt me, here is a direct quote from my phone conversation this morning. "Does she need to get to a job or school? Because sometimes people just want to be independent and we can't do that."

Right. Heaven forbid someone be independent. 

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