Saturday, July 15, 2006

Chapter 15: Counting Down Again -- In which we appear to see journey's end... though it is the start of the next

[J]

Having worked out the kinks in our out-of-town run, we've decided that it's time to take the show on the road. We'll shortly be offering a one-night-only abbreviated performance in Hong Kong, followed by an extended run over the Pacific Ocean, then a photo op in LA, and at last into our long-term engagement back in Chicago. -- We can't wait to get home.

This will, of course, be one more confusing change for Minh. He's had some very good days, and he has grown used to our rooms here at the Somerset. As we get ready to pack, he seems to be aware that something's up, and that means anxiety and fear for him. The plane flight could be a challenge for all three of us... though we've invested in a case of the coconut snack cakes that Minh loves so much, and we are ready to bribe our way across the ocean.

We cannot emphasize how clear it has become to us that in any adoption (and considering all that could happen, we've had a pretty easy time of it so far) the attachment of the parent to the child is as great a struggle as the attachment of the child to the parent. No adoptive parent (I hope) would expect a child of any age to immediately and eagerly become fully attached to her/his adoptive parent... and in the same way, I hope that no adoptive parent expects that he or she will immediately and without qualms or doubts become fully attached to an adopted child. -- In fact, this is probably true for children acquired by biological birth, as well... and it's probably true for marriage.... All of these sudden, new, and irrevocable relationships will face moments of doubt, dislike, and "buyer's remorse" (pardon the phrase)... or I am much deceived.

3 comments:

Pastor Chris said...

Very open, honest, and heartfelt words, Jud. Thanks for sharing throughout this journey...and welcome home.

Chris

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