tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25502633.post6733462066808853931..comments2024-03-22T14:58:07.239-05:00Comments on Ordinary Time: You just never knowthecurrysevenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08932092243753160814noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25502633.post-66354221617435587542010-01-08T19:32:54.637-06:002010-01-08T19:32:54.637-06:00Mrsbroccoliguy -- Go to the Holt board and look on...Mrsbroccoliguy -- Go to the Holt board and look on the VN forum. A woman who works for GVN has been posting on the situation. I kind of wish that Holt had let the Danang families know themselves and not have us find out about it in a backwards fashion.<br /><br />D. Cook -- I'm sorry that your son's transition has been hard. All I can say is give it more time. When TM had been home for 15 months, I still wasn't sure where we would end up. (And trips were particularly difficult for him.) Sometimes time is the only thing that will show you are there for him for the long haul. Hang in there.thecurrysevenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08932092243753160814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25502633.post-69530623802374476342010-01-08T19:24:33.159-06:002010-01-08T19:24:33.159-06:00This is so sad. How did you find all this out? I...This is so sad. How did you find all this out? It breaks my heart to think of those kids getting moved all around, losing the connections they have with caregivers. <br />And I know what you mean about losing that connection... my daughter R's nanny left her orphanage just a year or so after we adopted her and it made me so sad to think we might never be able to find her again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25502633.post-91899169222352443212010-01-08T13:38:13.896-06:002010-01-08T13:38:13.896-06:00Thanks again for addressing these tough issues. I ...Thanks again for addressing these tough issues. I usually just read not post, I sometimes feel that way about our son, would he have been better off if he never left VN. At 4.5years of age it was very hard, he lost so much and I am afraid when he is older it will go from confusing to resentment no matter how we explain it. I know that there were no guarantees he would have stayed with his foster family, but he would not have lost his first language or his birth country and culture. He has been with us for 15 months but misses VN and his foster family there so much. It will be a long time before he understands about being a ward of the state and who the foster family was, let alone the birth family. Most of the time I don't think he believes us when we tell him we are his forever family and that he will be with us forever and that he cannot go back to live in VN. At this point we can't even mention going for a visit sometime in the future. When we went on a plane trip to visit family no matter what we told him he was sure he was going back to VN. When we got back home he spent two days being very sad and quiet.D. Cookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05543490464974693006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25502633.post-45639063022978916962010-01-08T11:04:22.018-06:002010-01-08T11:04:22.018-06:00Thanks for writing this. I haven't had the he...Thanks for writing this. I haven't had the heart to talk about it.LawMommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17772740759391002766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25502633.post-15841039872686153622010-01-07T17:55:54.852-06:002010-01-07T17:55:54.852-06:00So in the end, he has been granted the best chance...So in the end, he has been granted the best chance at stability.<br /><br />Adoption is filled with heartbreak and heartwrenching choices. Is there a perfect solution? Usually not.<br /><br />All we can do is pray for wisdom in the decisions we make and peace for our little ones' hearts.<br /><br />For TM's sake, I'm so glad that if he had to lose his fparents, it was to you. (that sounds negative, but I think you know what I mean) I pray someday he will understand all the choices that were made on his behalf, in his best interest.<br /><br />Hugs to your little man.<br /><br />Blessings,<br />Sandwichsandwichinwihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04947099219933994677noreply@blogger.com