tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25502633.post6456313286637107113..comments2024-03-22T14:58:07.239-05:00Comments on Ordinary Time: The building of trustthecurrysevenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08932092243753160814noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25502633.post-88318402601956519502017-02-27T10:57:24.715-06:002017-02-27T10:57:24.715-06:00I would love to know what children's books you...I would love to know what children's books you recommend on adoption (ages 3-10)!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25502633.post-78618907152060026232017-02-10T20:39:56.796-06:002017-02-10T20:39:56.796-06:00"How many times have a heard a parent who is ..."How many times have a heard a parent who is newly home (as in months newly home) announce, "Oh our new child is so attached to us!"? Can I just say out loud that they are not 'so attached', but merely being pleasant? It takes time to attach. It takes time to form new and deep relationships. It takes time to really trust a person you don't know."<br /><br />I say this all.the.time and get the blank stare. The converse..."my child is not attaching" or "my child has attachment problems"...sometimes while STILL in the birth country! If there is no progress after a year, then consider that there may be issues (and also consider that the issue may be the parents') but don't put that weight on a child just trying to figure out what just happened to his/her life.Donnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13972328899908212341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25502633.post-50034724139020849002017-02-10T11:16:54.601-06:002017-02-10T11:16:54.601-06:00Not the same thing at all, but yet another example...Not the same thing at all, but yet another example of how difficult it must be for our internationally (or domestically) adopted kids:<br /><br />My high school exchange student, who willingly chose to come to us and speaks excellent English, is just now revealing after 5 months many of the things that were so baffling to her in the beginning. Even with a willingness to join our family AND a good command of the language, she was so confused by so many things. The language and culture barrier is real! And she was hesitant to ask for clarification. She often did, but I imagine it got tedious and embarrassing to ask ALL the time.<br /><br />I sure wish I had known all these adoption secrets you reveal, e., way back when it would have been helpful with my boys newly home.<br /><br />Blessings,<br />Sandwichsandwichinwihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04947099219933994677noreply@blogger.com