tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25502633.post5855531224624457858..comments2024-03-29T01:22:45.705-05:00Comments on Ordinary Time: Trauma stinksthecurrysevenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08932092243753160814noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25502633.post-18935722481796122792011-04-09T12:25:33.044-05:002011-04-09T12:25:33.044-05:00We are right there with you this week. Our 6 year...We are right there with you this week. Our 6 year old, home for just 5 months, has started to express a lot of grief. In the past, she has rejected her native language and discussions of Ethiopia to some extent, but at other times has wanted to talk about them. Yesterday, she sobbed for an hour in our laps and told us that she wants to go back to stay and not come back here. I know it is all a part of the process that she needs to go through, but it is so hard as a parent to know how to assist her. We, too, held her on our lap. We talked to her and listened to her and showed her photos. But there is so much that we don't know and that she doesn't recall clearly and that none of us has the words to discuss together yet due to the language barrier we still face. I know just what you mean about how there are warning signs that these feelings are surfacing but that we can miss them when they show up in behaviors we may be trying to correct/redirect. On the bright side, at least there IS a Rosetta Stone program for Vietnamese. There isn't one for Sidamic. I'm glad you were able to find something like that to please him as you find your way through these challenges.MRKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17273667096816207202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25502633.post-66592177778667978052011-04-07T19:20:56.756-05:002011-04-07T19:20:56.756-05:00Oh, I so understand...our girlie was only 2 1/2, ...Oh, I so understand...our girlie was only 2 1/2, but there are days that her grief is still so raw & real to her. I, too, have those moments when I look back & realize I should have dug a little deeper to figure out the behavior instead of reacting to what I see...<br /><br />Toddler & older child adoption, while HUGELY amazing, is sometimes uncharted territory for al involved.asian~treasureshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11422213203038881904noreply@blogger.com