tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25502633.post3205083977155575856..comments2024-03-22T14:58:07.239-05:00Comments on Ordinary Time: It's not about you - warning, hot button topic ahead, read at your own riskthecurrysevenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08932092243753160814noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25502633.post-85932603063260782012-02-01T20:38:04.319-06:002012-02-01T20:38:04.319-06:00Law Mommy -- I was so touched by your comment. I ...Law Mommy -- I was so touched by your comment. I can't tell you how helpful it has been to me to read about how Lana is doing at any given time. I use her emotional insight to help me figure out what must be going on inside my very unemotionally intuitive son. I'm so glad that we have been able to have them meet. It's just that much more motivation to try to get them together more often and then we would have an excuse to visit as well!<br /><br />ethecurrysevenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08932092243753160814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25502633.post-9360779253131731142012-01-31T10:14:50.714-06:002012-01-31T10:14:50.714-06:00I didn't comment on this the first time I read...I didn't comment on this the first time I read it because I was in a bad place with my daughter that day, and even though I needed to hear what you were saying, I didn't want to talk about it. <br /><br />(There are days when I really feel like you are one of the very, very few people who can really understand what is happening in my relationship with my child...and I don't think I can fully express my gratitude for the fact that I am glad to know you. My daughter is always interested when you post photos on your blog, and every now and then, when she is having a particularly bad day, and she is crying because she says no one has ever been through what she has been through, she will tell me that TM is the only person who had this happen as well. She does not believe me when I say it has happened to other kids, but she has met your son and knows he is a real person. I think it is comforting to her to have met him, even only twice.) <br /><br />At any rate, this is an important post, and I'm glad you wrote it. I wish I could write a companion piece to it, but I don't have it in me right now. L and I had a really, really bad two weeks, but things have turned around in the past few days and I was ready to tell you I was glad you wrote this.LawMommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17772740759391002766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25502633.post-70587300270905647432012-01-30T13:50:42.157-06:002012-01-30T13:50:42.157-06:00I agree that it is hard, 3.5 years into this, afte...I agree that it is hard, 3.5 years into this, after adopting a 5 year old and I can't believe how hard it is. I wish more people were truthful before we adopted. Because somedays I don't remember it's not about me or the life we all lost including the child we adopted. Somedays I look at it as a sentence for having believed we could do this well and love this child like our other. He still seems to prefer strangers to us no matter what we do. Being easy and molded to the child just is not always possible depending on the issues. We have not disrupted but decided to keep on doing our best, because that is what we need to do, for our child and for us.<br /><br />So think long and hard how much you like/love your current life and if you want what you have to end, because it will end and it may be better or it may be worse, a lot worse.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25502633.post-32695634792821721272012-01-26T12:10:33.664-06:002012-01-26T12:10:33.664-06:00Thank you for posting this, I wanted to add this v...Thank you for posting this, I wanted to add this video link from Karyn Purvis, http://www.child.tcu.edu/insight1.aspestablished1981https://www.blogger.com/profile/13991561019805289535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25502633.post-20402307695612135072012-01-26T08:29:39.271-06:002012-01-26T08:29:39.271-06:00Excellent post! I couldn't agree more-and I t...Excellent post! I couldn't agree more-and I think when parents go in eyes wide open, knowing there is an unknown (instead of the perceived imaginary dream) it is easier to love the child where he/she is at, instead of continually trying to mold the child into their dream. Yes, it is about the child!!! Instead of molding the child, adoptive parents have to learn to mold themselves into people that are EASY to love (and this is not always easy to do). <br />I love your open honestly. We are getting so close to travel!!! See you in China! (I hope!).<br />PS I'm going to link to your powerful article :-)Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11120490995754307409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25502633.post-90378983951823081012012-01-25T18:38:13.943-06:002012-01-25T18:38:13.943-06:00This is a great post. Although our adoption was p...This is a great post. Although our adoption was pretty painless, as far as adjustment to the new home, goes, we have still faced challenges. We chose to adopt a special needs child. There have been situations and issues along the way that have made this journey different from the journey we have with our biological children. That being said, it is still a joy to parent this child and we are so glad he is part of our family. May the Lord encourage all adoptive families to press on.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25502633.post-2668205454304065732012-01-25T17:56:58.907-06:002012-01-25T17:56:58.907-06:00So good to read this. I have a huge desire to ado...So good to read this. I have a huge desire to adopt someday, but I definitely want to make sure that I am being realistic and not living in a dream world about how things will be.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18221349654103920087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25502633.post-71558228781025907262012-01-25T16:04:44.356-06:002012-01-25T16:04:44.356-06:00I agree it can be difficult to remind yourself tha...I agree it can be difficult to remind yourself that the child you adopt did not ask for you to rescue them. After adopting my daughter from China, I kept thinking I was the hero, butI've learned from http://onlineceucredit.com/edu/social-work-ceus-cpa that children worldwide are removed from their parents for reasons of abuse and neglect. I sometimes forget this and realize I adopted my daughter to start a family.Alana Whiternoreply@blogger.com